I would be remiss if I didn't provide a brief update to the office kerfuffle of last week.
She told me she values our friendship ... because we were friendly ... and felt genuinely horrible at what she said and how it made me feel.
I...believe her. I was shocked at the gesture and also felt very nurtured at the same time. It's not just the act of the apology, it's the fact that she made sure it was delivered as soon as she got into the office (she still had her coat on).
And it was also that she knew I deserved the apology. So often people hurt others with their words or actions and never once feel anything even approaching remorse. They believe they have the right to say whatever they feel because it's all about them.
To come to me and, in essence, beg for my forgiveness was truly a genuine act of humility. I didn't ask for further apologies from B; she did, as I mentioned before, apologize in the moment. The fact that she made a point to come to me in-person reveals much about her character.